How Do I Save My Marriage?

Love and trust are vital components to the foundation of a solid marriage that endures.  But love and trust alone are not enough.

When times get tough, and life being what it is, having skills to listen effectively (to yourself and your spouse), manage intense negative emotions well, and communicate in non-blaming or defensive ways, are the tools to navigate life’s tougher challenges.

A good therapist can help you assess, and build on, your current strengths and teach, or fine tune, skills you might need for saving your marriage and making your relationship what you want it to be.

Can You Tell Me How to Save My Marriage?

Get advice from a qualified couples therapist who can help you address relationship injuries and help you begin the process of repairing your bond.

Be willing to do the work you need to do on yourself and with your partner to connect on a deeper, more vulnerable and more authentic level than ever before.

Create the relationship that you desire with the person you love most in the world.

How Do I Save My Marriage from Divorce?

If I’m only able to give one piece of advice it would be to start treating your marriage like a living breathing entity that you are responsible for keeping alive. That may sound weird but we often fail to think about what we can do for our marriage.

We get stuck focusing on the the things that our partner didn’t do for us. We then use that as a justification for us not do good things for our partner. This creates a cycle of hurt and resentment.

If you instead focus on “feeding” your marriage, regardless of what your partner did or didn’t do, it will grow and thrive.

Can My Marriage be Saved?

I think the most important thing to ask and explore is if each of you have ever been really married.

Really. Fully committed. Fully in.

If not, why not? Can’t know if you really want a divorce unless you know in your heart you’ve been really married.

Part two is about what your partner came in to your life to teach you or help you learn about yourself.

Do they know what that is? If not, then individuals would benefit by figuring it out and looking deeply at themselves.

They can get divorced, but my experience is they’re simply going to attract the same issue with a different face unless they see their part.

What is the normal frequency of sexual intercourse?

loving couple loving coupleThere is nothing like a normal frequency of sexual intercourse. One can have pleasure as much as one wishes and if the partner agrees.

Does excess sexual intercourse debilitate the person?

Every sexual intercourse is an exercise in itself. It causes the loss of certain calories depending upon the vigorousness of the act. Calories lost could be one hundred or more. Such an output of calories must be compensated by proper input. This occurs through normal diet. Then the debility is not observed.

Does avoiding sex, help enhance performance in fields life like sport, studies or career?

Avoiding sex in a sexually active person may in fact damage his or her performance in other fields of life. This is because it may be possible to avoid a sexual act but it is almost impossible to stop sexual thoughts. The constant stimulation of the sex center always hampers the ability of the person to concentrate. It is just like the uneasiness experienced due to the constant stimulation of the urinary center.

This definitely affects the performance of the person in his/her given work. To enable the person to succeed in the work undertaken, it is essential that this nagging stimulation be removed. This is possible, as in the case of urinary impulse, only by the actual act or in the absence of it, by masturbation. Contrary to the concept, this improves performance by allowing the mind to concentrate fully in other fields like studies, sport or career.

How long should sexual intercourse last for the satisfaction of the woman?

There is no hard and fast rule for the ideal duration of sexual intercourse. Every thing depends on the techniques of the sexual act and the psychological preparation of the woman. The man’s skill to stimulate her fully before penetration is the key to success.